If you’re facing a major problem in your life - whether in your marriage or another area - there is a very important step you must take before you do anything else.

You must ask yourself:

“Why is this a problem?”

Now I know that sounds like a strange question.

But there really is only one answer.

Your situation is a problem because you think it is.

In other words, your problem is only a problem because it makes you feel bad.

That’s it.

If your situation didn’t make you feel bad, it wouldn’t be a “problem” to you.

When you think about your problem ask yourself these questions:

  • What am I learning from this?

  • What could I learn from this?

  • In what ways is this making me a stronger person?

  • What would I say to someone else in the same situation that could be helpful to them?

  • How is this helping me to be a better person?

All of these questions are going to make you feel better about your situation.

And the good news is that when you feel better, you are much more able to solve the problem!

  • You will feel much more empowered.

  • You'll think of new and better solutions.

  • You’ll find yourself doing the right things - and not doing the wrong things.

This isn’t just “positive thinking”.

It’s using your brain in a different way - which opens up your real problem-solving abilities.

Rather than staying negative and depressed about the situation you are in, put in some mental effort to answer the above questions.

And you will find yourself doing much better things.

Also take a listen to my free audio “Solve Your Problem” at www.liamnaden.com

It’s a quick way to start getting your brain to see your problem differently - and give you a real solution.

Struggling to solve a problem rarely - if ever - works.

But changing the way you think about it does.

Give it a try…..

Liam Naden

Liam Naden is a coach, author, speaker, and researcher, celebrated for his multifaceted approach to human dynamics. Born in New Zealand, Liam's initial exploration into the intricacies of marital relationships expanded to encompass a profound study of the brain's role in problem-solving and achieving success.

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